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This year's pride month coincides with the 50th anniversary of Stonewall demos so forgive me for taking the opportunity of reminding us all of the water-shed It-gets-better events that took place on SAP premises in 2012 all around the world -  for SAP colleagues, SAP mentors, and all their families and friends.

I was so inspired that I wrote the following blog for an internal newsletter, but even if you don't have time or interest then please do watch this video published at the time which summarizes the situation then.... but is just as relevant today.

The SAP video:


Reprint from 2012 internal newsletter - What itgetsbetter means for an SAP employee

When Jeffrey (son of an SAP colleague) took his life on New Year’s Day after years of bullying , Moya Watson (@moyalynne then SAP colleague) committed on her decision to produce a powerful video called “It Gets Better”, to trigger awareness in the hopes that tragedies like this can be avoided in future. This spawned many enthusiastic responses, and SAP top management decided this matters so much within SAP that they sponsored several events, one of which I attended… hence this article.

Many of us have memories of what it’s like to feel on the brink as a teenager, but we are so glad, for our own sake and that of our families that we didn’t take that ghastly step. It gets better. There is a future ahead worth living for. But when you’re on the brink as a teenager you can’t see that vision. Be aware, that all of us at SAP can contribute to making the environment of growing-up a better, happier place – even indirectly.

The isolation caused by bullying is much worse today than it was when I was young. It’s more public and more sophisticated so the wounds are deeper. The most effective way of stopping it is when a strong member of the team (school class, sports team, neighborhood…) steps in to protect. But that’s something that happens all too rarely, partly because none of the bullies or spectators can understand the pain, or notice that even simple jibes can cause pain to others.

Bullying because of sexual orientation or gender identity is especially difficult to protect yourself against. The feelings associated with sexual attraction or love are physical and chemically triggered, fogging out rationality and distance – and a teenage psyche already struggling to come to terms with adulthood is particularly vulnerable. So a teenager bullied in this respect has little chance to protect himself – it’s akin to being kicked from all sides after you’ve been floored, while your peers watch passively, or even worse, taunt and jeer.

So when the leader of the SAP pack, Jim Snabe [then SAP CEO], appears in the video, explains to us why he’s picked us for the SAP team, why SAP and its community needs diversity… that is a very powerful and protective message. It is a huge comfort. It is a very brave message and a message we have a duty to spread.

I sat behind SAP Mentor Tobias Trapp (@ttrapp) at the Walldorf event, where Steve (Jeffrey’s father) and representatives of the different communities discussed as a panel and I realized I’d underestimated the problem. Discussing with my own children about social attitudes at school and discussing with gay colleagues at SAP confirmed this. And I learnt how “Gay Pride” addressed only a subset of LGBT. I realized how important it is to spread Jim’s example to our childrens’ attitudes, schools’ attitudes, parents’ attitudes, neighborhoods and even the soccer teams that we coach. When I quizzed my own children I was encouraged to hear that there was a very positive attitude in their classes (bullying being treated as antisocial, and solutions sought proactively; homosexuals coming out without being hassled) but I also learnt that some negative traits went unnoticed (homosexual abusive terms being used colloquially as derogatory statements.) So there is still work to be done, even in the best of environments.

Most important, within SAP, be aware of the hurt that a glib comment or joke can cause a colleague. As an SAP employee, I believe we should show no tolerance for intolerance. And spread this proactively to other communities, so that #itgetsbetter for the complete community as well as for our children, too.

And take symptoms of depression seriously because it happens to the best of adults, too. Overcome your embarrassment and offer a friendly ear.

The 12 minute #itgetsbetter video – do watch

The SAP mentor blog:


.... and 12 years on, we've all seen just how strong diversity makes us, the community, and the software and services that are generated by this terrific community (personal view).

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