A chemistry meeting, typically a complimentary session lasting 30 to 60 minutes, is designed to evaluate the fit between a coach and a prospective client. This step is crucial for establishing trust and a good working relationship. To find the right coach, you may meet with several, compare their approaches, and see which styles might challenge you to grow. Even if you're considering just one coach, it's beneficial to have a chemistry session to gauge your rapport with them.
It is important to talk about your objectives and see if they align with the coach's expertise, as well as to plan for any possible challenges ahead.

How to prepare?
Start your preparation by reflecting on both your short-term and long-term goals. Understand what specifically you aim to achieve through coaching. Once you have identified your goals, jot down any questions you might have about the coach, their methods, how they handle challenges, and more.
It's essential to approach the meeting with an open mind, prepared to discuss potential challenges, disagreements, and solutions. Lastly, be ready to share. Your aspirations, strengths, areas for development are all crucial pieces of the puzzle for the coach to understand how best to support you.
During the course of the session
Begin your chemistry session with a detailed and engaging introduction that helps build a connection between you and the coach. Convey your goals and what you're seeking in clear terms. This enables the coach to appropriately align their strategies with your objectives. If you harbor any doubts or questions regarding the coaching process, the techniques employed, or how the sessions will be structured, take advantage of this opportunity and ask away.
If you have a particular area of interest or concern, feel free to ask the coach how they plan on addressing this topic.
The chemistry session is an open dialogue - honesty, transparency, and open communication are fundamental. This will help you gauge the coach's flexibility, responsiveness, and whether their approach aligns with your expectations. Dive into open and honest discussions with your potential coach as it aids your decision-making process in choosing the right coach for your unique needs and goals.
Arriving at a decision
Choosing the right coach can be greatly influenced by several parameters, key among them are:
- Rapport: Reflect on your level of comfort during your interactions with the coach. The establishment of a good rapport is crucial for a successful coaching relationship and is often built on mutual respect, shared understanding, and a positive connection. Did the conversation flow easily? Were there shared values or interests that could foster a strong working relationship?
- Respect: Pay close attention to whether the coach treats you with respect. A good coach values their clients’ opinions and experiences and listens attentively to what they have to say. Does the coach make you feel valued and respected?
- Feeling Heard: One of the hallmarks of an effective coaching session is a sense of being heard. The coach should be an active listener, taking in your needs, desires, and goals without interruption or judgment. Did you feel understood and acknowledged during your talk?
- Feeling Safe: Part of creating an effective coaching environment involves feeling safe. This safety refers to both emotional safety, allowing for honest expression of thoughts and feelings, and intellectual safety, enabling the sharing of ideas and goals without fear of humiliation. Did the conversation space feel secure enough for you to be honest?
- Ability to Speak Openly and Be Vulnerable: Lastly, evaluate whether you felt comfortable enough in the conversation to express your fears, doubts, weaknesses, and aspirations openly. A strong coaching relationship supports vulnerability, encouraging clients to share openly and honestly. Did the coach enable you to express yourself freely and authentically?
Remember, selecting a coach is an intensely personal decision. These parameters are designed to ensure that you find a coach who is not only capable and qualified but also aligns with your personality and needs.